The Power of Words
A few years ago, I overheard a conversation between two friends at a local café who were in strong political disagreement. As they waited for their lunch, each became more agitated with the opposing ideology of the other. In soft tones, so as to not disturb others sitting at nearby tables, both women began using words that were meant to convince the other of their intellectual and political superiority. It was easy to ascertain that the words they chose during the conversation was a struggle for individual power. The steady stream of negative proclamations was meant to convince the other of their correctness. Both individuals used impactful words that were not always considerate or kind. What must have started out simply as a discussion of opposing political ideologies, became a quietly heated and accusatory conversation, which I could see and feel caused each other great frustration and pain. They ate their meal in silence, and departed the same way.
Hard to Erase
I have not forgotten this incident after all these years because of its significance. Words are powerful and enduring. In the end, any negative words, phrases, or belittling comments we give to another becomes our trademark; a clear description of our character and personality. The pain of hurtful words are difficult to forget once spoken.
Personal Responsibility
Before entering the fray of any challenging conversation, we need to carefully ask ourselves a few vital questions: Will my self-defensive, accusatory words become a deliberate way to stop a conversation, threaten the listener, gain emotional power, manipulate a particular person or situation, or an effort to feel superior or righteously correct? Speaking words energized by intense self-protective emotions are usually exaggerations, and not the full truth.
“Words either help or harm. Choose them wisely.”